Choosing Me Again

Greetings B. Well Family!

One of the biggest lessons I am learning in this season is that sometimes the life we planned and the life we are actually living are two very different things. A few years ago, I booked a trip to Colombia during a completely different chapter of my life. By the time I finally took that trip, almost everything around me had changed. I was navigating single motherhood, raising three little girls, rebuilding parts of my life, managing work, and carrying responsibilities that looked nothing like what I imagined when I originally made those plans.

For a long time, that trip felt like one more reminder of what had changed. It eventually became a travel credit, and I almost let it expire. There was always something that felt more urgent than me. Work needed my attention. My children needed my attention. Life needed my attention. And I realized how easy it is, especially for high-achieving women and caregivers, to become so good at showing up for everyone else that we quietly disappear from our own lives.

Going to Colombia became about much more than taking a vacation. It reminded me that I am allowed to experience joy even while parts of my life are still being rebuilt. I am allowed to make new memories even if the original plan did not work out. And choosing myself does not mean I am neglecting the people I love. Sometimes choosing myself is exactly what allows me to return to them more whole, present, and grounded.

Another lesson I am carrying with me is that we have to stop measuring our lives against the version we thought we were supposed to have. There are seasons when holding tightly to the old plan keeps us from seeing what God is doing in the life that is actually unfolding. Colombia reminded me that disappointment and beauty can exist in the same story. So can grief and joy. So can responsibility and adventure.

While I was there, I saw a beautiful rainbow, and it felt like such a personal reminder that the storm is never the whole story. There can still be beauty on the other side of change. There can still be new experiences, deeper relationships, unexpected opportunities, and versions of ourselves we have not even met yet.

That is also the work I love doing through B. Well. Many of the clients I work with are successful, capable, and accustomed to being the person everyone depends on. But underneath all of that accomplishment, they may be asking: What do I want now? Who am I in this next season? How do I stop simply managing my life and begin enjoying it again?

If you are in a season of transition—personally, professionally, relationally, or simply within yourself—you do not have to have every answer before you begin moving forward. Sometimes the work starts by giving yourself permission to imagine a life beyond the one you originally planned.

Through coaching, I help clientslearn to slow down, reconnect with themselves, clarify what they want next, and make intentional choices about the life they are building.

If this sounds like the season you are in, I would love to work with you.

Let’s talk about what your next chapter could look like.

And if you want to see a little more of the Colombia trip that inspired this reflection, you can watch the Reel here.

In Wellness,

Adrianne