A New Year’s Eve Reflection from My Heart to Yours

Hello B. Well Family,

Last New Year’s Eve, I did my yearly ritual. 

I walked through my house—room by room, corner by corner—and I prayed out loud.
Not quietly. Not politely. Out loud.

I spoke everything I wanted out of my home:

Chaos

Confusion

Tiredness that lived in my bones

Disrespect

Immaturity

Heavy energy

Struggle that felt inherited

I told those things they were no longer welcome here.

And then I called things in:

Rest

Respect

Joy

Order

Peace

Abundance

Stability

Safety

Ease

I thought I was setting intentions for a smoother year.

What I didn’t know was that within moments—within weeks—everything began to fall apart.

2025 did not ease me in.
It grabbed me by the neck and started punching me in the face.

I could barely catch my breath.

I endured things I never imagined I would face:

A custody case

Leaving a home I had intentionally chosen and renovated for my children

Letting go of a vision of stability I thought was the plan

Watching my life change suddenly and drastically, without my permission

For the first time in my life, I found myself on the floor asking God, “Why have You forsaken me?”

When the words came out of my mouth, my mother said,
“Who are you questioning God?”

But I was questioning everything.

I didn’t understand what was happening.
I had prayed.
I had asked for good things.
Why did it all feel like loss?

And now, as I bring this year to a close, I can finally see it.

Everything had to fall apart so something new could be built.

Not rebuilt.
Not repaired.
Built new.

This year taught me things I never could have learned any other way:

I am stronger than I ever imagined

I can trust myself

I am smart

I make good decisions—for myself and for my children

I know how to stand when things are uncertain

I learned who is really for me.
I learned who shows up when it’s hard.
I learned who disappears when it’s inconvenient.

I saw my village rise.
And I saw who quietly exited.

And instead of bitterness, I feel gratitude.

Because 2025 stripped me down—and gave me back me.

As I look toward 2026, I am excited—not because I know what’s coming, but because I trust myself and I trust God.

I’ve learned this:
God gives us the desires of our hearts…
but sometimes His path to get us there looks nothing like we imagined.

And still—it works for our highest good.

Your New Year’s Eve Assignment

Before you step into 2026, I invite you to do this work intentionally.

Part 1: Reflect on 2025

Take a sheet of paper or your journal.

Write down every hard thing from 2025.
Every challenge.
Every loss.
Every moment you questioned yourself or God.

After each one, write:

“Thank you for what this gave me that I did not have before.”

Maybe it gave you:

  • Strength

  • Clarity

  • Boundaries

  • Discernment

  • Courage

  • Self-trust

  • Freedom

  • A new perspective

Let yourself see the growth—not just the grief.

Part 2: Call In 2026

Now, out loud if you can, write and speak what you are calling in for 2026.

Examples:

  • Peace in my body

  • Stability in my home

  • Joy that feels light

  • Financial ease

  • Healthy relationships

  • Rest without guilt

  • Alignment

  • Support

  • Expansion

  • Love—starting with myself

Don’t over-control how it happens.

Instead, add this sentence at the end:

“I am open to the process, even if it looks different than I expect.”

Because trust isn’t about knowing the route.
It’s about believing you’ll be held on the way.

As you step into the new year, remember this:
If 2025 didn’t break you—it built you.

And 2026 gets to meet the strongest, wisest, most grounded version of you yet.

I’m honored to walk with you into it.

Happy New Year!

Adrianne Pinkney

As an Integrative Wellness and Life coach I support clients in healing core issues and negative patterns while empowering them to change their life with effective tools, techniques, and specific action plans. Utilizing a combination of modalities, fields and techniques, or inclusive approaches to empowering, I offer clients the tools to self-heal, overcome and grow toward wholeness, harmony or balance in the entire person: mental, emotional physical, and spiritual. Successful clients gain freedom from the past and overcome habits and patterns that block fulfillment in all areas of their lives.

http://www.bwellcoach.com
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