Basking In The Rainbow: Our Family’s New Chapter
This past weekend we celebrated Sofia turning 3 with a rainbow pool party at Mimi’s house. The theme had a special story behind it…
The Rainbow That Led Us Home
Back in January, our family was in breakdown. It became painfully clear that I needed to secure myself and the girls from the storm in our home in Atlanta. When we came to Raleigh in March to visit my mom and look for “a shelter in the time of storm,” (a new house) the skies poured rain.
It literally rained all day. Then, suddenly, the most beautiful rainbow appeared—bright, clear, and stretching across the sky. We were driving when we spotted it, and it followed us for nearly 10 minutes, wherever we went. The homies were amazed! They squealed with joy and excitement. The girls have been saying ever since, “The rainbow is in Raleigh.”
So when I asked Sofia what theme she wanted for her birthday, I was sure she’d say Baby Shark or Doc McStuffins. Instead, she said: “Rainbows.”
This Sunday, surrounded by family and friends, we celebrated her 3rd birthday with a rainbow pool party.
This was a special moment because those of you who have been following know I’ve been in an 8-month storm in the form of a custody battle.
Last Friday, during mediation, I faced the hardest decision yet:
Option 1: Stay in Georgia with a 70/30 parenting plan, child support, and half the equity in our home.
Option 2: Give all that away to move home to North Carolina with my daughters and raise them in love and community.
I chose the rainbow.
Choosing What Truly Matters
I walked away from the material things—100% of the home’s equity, child support, and what many might call “security”—because my daughters’ future, my peace, and our freedom to thrive matter more. Now, I am legally recognized as my daughters’ primary parent. I have final decision-making authority in every area of their lives—education, medical care, extracurriculars, and faith.
We are home in North Carolina, rooted in love, family, and community. If their dad wants 50/50 parenting, he’ll need to move here—where the rainbow is.
Yes, I gave up the house, but I secured our home.
My girls are thriving—adjusting with resilience, laughter, and joy. They love seeing their uncles, Mimi, cousins, and friends daily. Their smiles remind me that every sacrifice was worth it. All the help and support I had to pay for in Atlanta, I get for free in NC. Folks come around just because they love us, not because they are being paid.
Finding Strength, Faith, and a New Beginning
This process has shown me who I am and what matters most: A devoted mother who chooses her children’s well-being over material gain. A Carolina girl, grounded in family and faith. A woman who believes God’s promises and steps boldly into the future. Here’s the 2 scriptures carrying me:
“Remember not the forer things, neither consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing; now it shall spring forth - shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.”
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink.. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all of these things shall be added to you.”
Over these past 8 months of court battles, I’ve racked up significant attorney’s fees. My original plan was to use the house proceeds to cover them, but I gave up that house to secure our new home.
My new plan? Secure new clients and get to work!
Now that we’re home and grounded in community, it’s time for B. Well to fly.
Here’s how we can work together:
Professional Development & Leadership Training – Helping organizations build stronger teams through soft skills and well-being.
Youth Programming – Equipping the next generation with life skills, resilience, and confidence.
Individual Coaching – Supporting personal growth, healing, and leadership on a one-to-one basis.
If your organization could benefit from this kind of training, or if you know someone who’s looking, I’d love for you to think of me. This next chapter is about rebuilding, and I’m excited to do that through meaningful work.
