If you are not granting yourself the love you expect from others, you are actually not loving others...you are using them to meet the your unfulfilled needs. That, dear, is not love. That is manipulation. The universe is designed to reflect the realities we have first created in our minds. When you know that you are worthy of healthy love and respect, receiving it will only affirm what you already expect. Being loved, and being loved well, is all that you will allow from yourself and others.