Though this phrase--“coming out of the closet”- is often used in reference to LGBTQ individuals, I have realized that we all have to “come out” at some point in our lives. I understand “coming out” to mean announcing who you are in spite of what other people expected, assumed, raised, or hoped you to be.
Get out of the weeds! Staying angry about the past will negatively affect your life. Weed the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s from your emotional garden. If you want to grow the emotional flowers of love, acceptance, joy, peace, and abundance you must pull the weeds of anger, disappointment, and judgement from your life. Weeding is hard work. Gordon B. Hinckley reminds us, “Without hard work nothing grows but the weeds.”
Our first value reads “We practice and promote love toward self, others, and the earth that we share.” When working with our clients, love comes first. One of the most important books I’ve read on love was Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages. I recommend this book to anyone who seeks to create love with another. I know this book is often recommended for those in romantic relationships, but Chapman offers instruction on the 5 Love Languages in the workplace, of children, for singles, men, etc… He has a book for everybody.
When I began to grow I could no longer listen to stories that I'd longed to listen to before. I could hear the lack of self-worth in her decision "give him one more chance," I could hear his internal rage in his daily gripe about his "stupid boss," and I could see the role she played in her money problems. I was no longer attracted to it. I just couldn't be around that $h@!. I wanted people who would support me in being my best-self. I needed more.