This was the moment I got serious about doing my work. This is the moment I was willing to invest whatever amount of time, energy or resources I needed to heal myself. I found a new counselor, started attending mindfulness and meditation retreats, changed my diet, ended relationships, stopped lying to myself and started telling the whole truth (even if it hurt people’s feelings), journaled, prayed, and cried. After months of hard work, things started to change. As a matter of fact, things changed drastically. Change occurred in every area of my life. I had hopeful and positive thoughts, I felt better, and I connected to the God within myself.
Seeds are small; however, given time and nurturance they grow into mighty trees that live on for generations or plants that can feed many. The parable of the mustard seed reminds us that tiny seeds can make a mighty yield. What small seeds are you willing to sow into yourself? Your family? Your health? Your heart? Beginning with small acts of changed behavior can alter the entire course of your life. Say one kind thing to yourself and see how your body begins to heal. Take one thing off your schedule and watch your mental health increase. Commit to doing one small act for your spouse and see how your marriage begins to improve. Seeds are mighty. Begin by planting one. One word. One act. One moment.
Each of us plays a very specific role in our families. Often that role is decided in childhood and we continue to play that part into our adult years. Some people play the role of "black sheep" "the successful one" or "the one who got out". Others are the perpetual "baby" of the family. Some are "the one you can call on." Others spend their adult lives stuck in the role of "Mama's boy" or "Daddy's girl." Although we might function completely differently at work or at home, when we get around our family, it is almost natural to fall into place. Do you like the role you play in your family? Does the assignment work for you?
What is most appealing to women, and men alike, is having someone know the real you and choosing to love you anyway. Despite all the fears, flaws, mistakes, issues, and imperfections, we seek to be loved in spirit and truth. This type of love is only created through radical honesty. Real love involves risk.