Though this phrase--“coming out of the closet”- is often used in reference to LGBTQ individuals, I have realized that we all have to “come out” at some point in our lives. I understand “coming out” to mean announcing who you are in spite of what other people expected, assumed, raised, or hoped you to be.
As autumn sets in, consider the areas of your life that need to be released, consider what no longer serves you, gets in your way, and needs to wither and die. It can be physical: a job, relationship, debt, or clothes that no longer fit. You can release emotional baggage: anger, guilt, sadness, and unforgiveness. Or maybe you are carrying mental weight: negative thoughts, racing thoughts, or unawareness. Commit to letting something go. Be like the trees...Release!
Psalm 51:10 reads, "Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me." Emotional renewal is important. During this Spring season, clean your heart. Who do you need to forgive? What are you holding on to that is slowing you down? Are you still feeling guilty? Have you not released the shame of the past? Are you still holding on to a relationship that is over? This is a wonderful time to decide to feel better. Set your intentions toward positive emotions. Choose JOY!
Our first value reads “We practice and promote love toward self, others, and the earth that we share.” When working with our clients, love comes first. One of the most important books I’ve read on love was Dr. Gary Chapman’s The Five Love Languages. I recommend this book to anyone who seeks to create love with another. I know this book is often recommended for those in romantic relationships, but Chapman offers instruction on the 5 Love Languages in the workplace, of children, for singles, men, etc… He has a book for everybody.
When I began to grow I could no longer listen to stories that I'd longed to listen to before. I could hear the lack of self-worth in her decision "give him one more chance," I could hear his internal rage in his daily gripe about his "stupid boss," and I could see the role she played in her money problems. I was no longer attracted to it. I just couldn't be around that $h@!. I wanted people who would support me in being my best-self. I needed more.