If you are not granting yourself the love you expect from others, you are actually not loving others...you are using them to meet the your unfulfilled needs. That, dear, is not love. That is manipulation. The universe is designed to reflect the realities we have first created in our minds. When you know that you are worthy of healthy love and respect, receiving it will only affirm what you already expect. Being loved, and being loved well, is all that you will allow from yourself and others.
I encourage women to love themselves because it is the only way we can ever properly love our children. I am deeply invested in women's wellness. The wellness of women is paramount because women are nation builders. To build strong children, families and nations woman must first care for themselves.