Fannie Lou Hammer reminds us at some point we have to be, "sick and tired of being sick and tired." I have realized that in order to move toward wellness one must become adamant about their own healing. You have to be unapologetic about saving yourself.
Learning to wait is difficult but i am discovering that waiting and moving slowly allows us to see the miracle of the unfolding. It involves trusting that all things will happen in time. The caterpillar doesn't worry if it is going to become a butterfly, it will become the butterfly because that is what it is made to do. There is no need to rush the process, it will do nothing but cause stress and worry. What is more productive is to watch the process in amazement that we are already designed to grow, mature, blossom, and, eventually, FLY!
What is most appealing to women, and men alike, is having someone know the real you and choosing to love you anyway. Despite all the fears, flaws, mistakes, issues, and imperfections, we seek to be loved in spirit and truth. This type of love is only created through radical honesty. Real love involves risk.
If you find yourself struggling to set boundaries it could result from several core issues. Did you grow up in a family where you learned you did not have rights to your space? safety? privacy? feelings? thoughts? money? Do you struggle with dealing with feelings of guilt or shame for asserting boundaries? Did you learn that it was good to always put others needs and desires before your own? Do you believe that you deserve respect? Do you know how to require it?