We are just moments away from bringing in a New Year and I kept thinking about what I would write to the B. Well community. It just came to me. Here it is…I recently took a road trip across the United States (from North Carolina to California) and I had a lot of time to reflect on 2017. During that time of reflection, I received an email from a university at which I teach a couple of classes. In that email were my course evaluations. I have taught college classes for 5 years now and I opened my evaluations expecting them to be what they always were… stellar. Shockingly, they were not. It was a mixed bag, some good things were said, some not so good things were said. I wasn’t used to “not good things” being said about my teaching. I am a teacher. This is my assignment on earth. Don’t these people know that I am called?! After weeping in the car for about 30 minutes and repeatedly saying, “Are they serious?” or “They seriously hated me.” My friend, or in this case my “road dog”, encouraged me to take a more objective look the evaluations. He was right. I realized that I had been given feedback about other people’s perception of my performance and I had to decide what I thought were legitimate criticisms, and what was white noise. I also chose to focus more on the many things I’d done right. So, I got strategic. I organized the comments in categories and I decided which things I wanted to improve upon in the future and which things I was not going to entertain. Suddenly, it didn’t seem so bad.The universe was working through my students to facilitate my growth and improvement.
As a life coach, I must admit, I love self-improvement. With this, I encourage you to look over 2017 and take the feedback. Which part of your financial situation was a result of your relationship with money and which part was just life-happening? What aspect of your romantic relationship improved or worsened because of your choices and behavior, and what part had nothing to do with you? How much of your teenager’s behavior is a result of your parenting, and which part can be attributed to teenage “growing pains”? Are you doing all you can to improve upon your career? What did you do well? What can you do better?
The New Year presents a wonderful opportunity to reflect, restart, refocus, and re-do. Once you can clearly see what feedback the universe is providing you, you get to decide what you would like to improve upon. You decide what you want to work on. You choose where you would like to grow.As you welcome the New Year, consider allowing B. Well to coach you in creating the loving, abundant, and happy life you deserve. We create our experiences, let’s make something beautiful by committing to consciously getting better each day. Let's grow! I love you!
Happy New Year!
Dr. Adrianne R. Pinkney,
Integrative Wellness and Life Coach