Fannie Lou Hammer reminds us at some point we have to be, "sick and tired of being sick and tired." I have realized that in order to move toward wellness one must become adamant about their own healing. You have to be unapologetic about saving yourself.
Each of us plays a very specific role in our families. Often that role is decided in childhood and we continue to play that part into our adult years. Some people play the role of "black sheep" "the successful one" or "the one who got out". Others are the perpetual "baby" of the family. Some are "the one you can call on." Others spend their adult lives stuck in the role of "Mama's boy" or "Daddy's girl." Although we might function completely differently at work or at home, when we get around our family, it is almost natural to fall into place. Do you like the role you play in your family? Does the assignment work for you?
It's the fattest, greediest, most glutenous time of year. This season can be difficult for those of us who struggle to make healthy choices. Food has a major affect on how we feel; thus, your dietary choices impact your quality of life. In effort to keep you performing well and feeling well I wanted to offer a few practical tips that can result in enjoying the holiday and still honoring your body with healthy habits and foods.
Learning to wait is difficult but i am discovering that waiting and moving slowly allows us to see the miracle of the unfolding. It involves trusting that all things will happen in time. The caterpillar doesn't worry if it is going to become a butterfly, it will become the butterfly because that is what it is made to do. There is no need to rush the process, it will do nothing but cause stress and worry. What is more productive is to watch the process in amazement that we are already designed to grow, mature, blossom, and, eventually, FLY!
What is most appealing to women, and men alike, is having someone know the real you and choosing to love you anyway. Despite all the fears, flaws, mistakes, issues, and imperfections, we seek to be loved in spirit and truth. This type of love is only created through radical honesty. Real love involves risk.
When I began to grow I could no longer listen to stories that I'd longed to listen to before. I could hear the lack of self-worth in her decision "give him one more chance," I could hear his internal rage in his daily gripe about his "stupid boss," and I could see the role she played in her money problems. I was no longer attracted to it. I just couldn't be around that $h@!. I wanted people who would support me in being my best-self. I needed more.