This was the moment I got serious about doing my work. This is the moment I was willing to invest whatever amount of time, energy or resources I needed to heal myself. I found a new counselor, started attending mindfulness and meditation retreats, changed my diet, ended relationships, stopped lying to myself and started telling the whole truth (even if it hurt people’s feelings), journaled, prayed, and cried. After months of hard work, things started to change. As a matter of fact, things changed drastically. Change occurred in every area of my life. I had hopeful and positive thoughts, I felt better, and I connected to the God within myself.
Though this phrase--“coming out of the closet”- is often used in reference to LGBTQ individuals, I have realized that we all have to “come out” at some point in our lives. I understand “coming out” to mean announcing who you are in spite of what other people expected, assumed, raised, or hoped you to be.
Get out of the weeds! Staying angry about the past will negatively affect your life. Weed the shoulda, coulda, woulda’s from your emotional garden. If you want to grow the emotional flowers of love, acceptance, joy, peace, and abundance you must pull the weeds of anger, disappointment, and judgement from your life. Weeding is hard work. Gordon B. Hinckley reminds us, “Without hard work nothing grows but the weeds.”
Seeds are small; however, given time and nurturance they grow into mighty trees that live on for generations or plants that can feed many. The parable of the mustard seed reminds us that tiny seeds can make a mighty yield. What small seeds are you willing to sow into yourself? Your family? Your health? Your heart? Beginning with small acts of changed behavior can alter the entire course of your life. Say one kind thing to yourself and see how your body begins to heal. Take one thing off your schedule and watch your mental health increase. Commit to doing one small act for your spouse and see how your marriage begins to improve. Seeds are mighty. Begin by planting one. One word. One act. One moment.
When you are in the presence of a woman you will know it. You will know what Ms. Such-and-Such will and won’t allow from you by the way she holds herself. The world shifts in the presence of a woman. People carry themselves differently. Men sit-up. Children behave. Other women nod in acknowledgement. A woman will naturally call you to your higher-self.
Womanhood cannot be bestowed. Womanhood cannot be taken away. It is known.
Money itself isn't good or bad. It's paper - money is not consciously making decisions on it's own. Therefore, it's neutral. Money is energy. It's the energy that we choose to use money with that determines whether it feels "good" or "bad." Our ability to obtain, retain, multiply and give money is based on much more than our money management skills. Money is a physical manifestation of our emotional, mental, and spiritual lives.
As you prepare for the New Year, I challenge you to move away from what you want to have or do, and focus on what you seek to experience. These are things that are more spiritual in nature. You might not be able to hold them in your hand, or hang them on your wall, but they can be had no matter what the year brings. Instead of writing specific financial goals, you could write, "This year I choose to experience financial peace and abundance."
I know we like to think that people who love us don’t hurt us. The reality is, people can really love you and hurt you. When love walks in the room, many of us become afraid....love is so amazing that we don't want it to ever leave. This can ignite fear, and then we start acting crazy. Yes, love makes our stuff come up.